by Harry Butler, Ph.D. Psychotherapy
When we think of child abuse, most of us think of physical abuse and physical neglect. We have images of children brutally beaten, burned with cigarettes, left alone for long periods, malnourished, and sexually exploited for adult sadistic gratification. All of us are horrified when we learn of such cases and we readily identify with the plight of these children. Emotional abuse, however, is less easily detected and more often rationalized by everyone; abusers, the abused, and society. Yet, the lifetime consequences of emotional abuse are equal to those of physical abuse.
Posted by The Comeback on May 23, 2011
Every Sunday for the past few weeks I have taken my two little puppies to school, I love this moment watching all the little puppies “Attempt” to learn to behave themselves, it starts off being really serious but after a few minutes it ends up being really just one big play time for the puppies and a bunch of adults getting all tangled up among a whole group of dogs leads. When school is over I’m usually a bit hungry and I’m not proud to say is usually McDonalds or Burger King I drive to. It quickly fills a whole in my tummy, doesn’t taste so good but it does the job. One of the things I have noticed about fast food places on Sundays is it seems in a lot of cases they have become a central part of the game of Battle Chess between separated couples and kids.
From: Peace Talks
Using children as allies and pawns during separation and divorce is all too common. Parents who are feeling hurt, angry, or bitter, may want to tell the child intimate details about why the marriage broke down, to persuade the child to think and feel like they do. It is very reassuring to have your child agree with you and become furious at the other parent. It also is a way to cope with your jealousy and desire for revenge. Parents may thus coax a child through questions to spy on the other parent, to tell them stories about the activities and behavior of the other parent. There have even been cases when a parent will feign illnesses, or adopt psychological problems, in order to obtain the children’s loyalty against the other parent. There have also been cases where a parent will tell a child that the other parent does not really love him or want to be with him, but will want to see him a lot to hurt the caretaking parent. This hurts your child far more than it does the other parent. Click here for an article about children being used as pawns in divorce.
The Milk Party (aka The Children’s Movement of Florida) says that “the well-being and education of our children in Florida must be the highest priority of government, business, non-profit institutions and families.” The Milk Party says that “Our Children Deserve Better” and I agree with them. Who wouldn’t agree with them?
The Milk Party also says that they are non-partisan and that is a damned lie. Under the cloak of non-partisanship the Milk Party is a coalition of socialists, who like all socialists believe that all they need is your money and big government to solve the problems of the world.